Lasting Memories

Barbara "Bebo" Jean Whistler Barnes
June 23, 1927-June 28, 2015
Rocklin, California

Bebo died peacefully a few days after having a wonderful 88th birthday celebration surrounded by her children and grandchildren, knowing she was loved.

Born in Palo Alto to Grant and Hilda (Puranen) Ernest, Barbara attended Palo Alto High School where she was a drum majorette. She spent her sophomore year being tutored at home while in a body cast due to scoliosis and back fusion surgery. Barbara was interested in language and referenced the Latin she learned in high school throughout her life, had an enthusiasm for learning Spanish and couldn't help but correct others' grammar.

Barbara initially attended Cal Berkeley until she realized she wanted a career in occupational therapy and transferred to San Jose State, earning a bachelor?s degree in 1948. While in college, Barbara met Landis Whistler, whom she later married. They settled in the Sacramento area and had three children. She was a devoted mom and close with her children. She was also a great cook, valued healthy food before it was popular and was always looking for a new recipe to try.

Barbara loved her job as a supervising occupational therapist for Sacramento County California Children Services (CCS). A progressive thinker and a definite do-er, Barbara was a leader in her field, developing forward-thinking and innovative programs. She was a mentor and role model to her staff, with whom she had great rapport and meaningful relationships, many of which continued as friendships after retirement.

After divorcing in 1973, Barbara remained in Citrus Heights to continue raising her children. She reunited with "the love of her life," Bill Barnes, whom she had known in high school, and they married in 1980. Bebo moved to Capitola, where she and Bill enjoyed a life of music, friendships and adventure. With Billy, Bebo was able to take vacations and travel. She loved the warmth of the sun, and they made annual visits to Nevada, Death Valley and to Loreto, Baja California.

In 2008, to be closer to family and their support, Barbara and Bill moved to Rocklin, where they enjoyed the wetland preserve setting. Sadly, Billy passed away in 2010. Barbara persevered through physical challenges with the strength and determination of her Finnish "sisu" character.

Bebo had a zest for life, was intellectually sharp and curious, and was continually interested in learning and growing. She was a great host and loved having family and friends in her home. She enjoyed engaging others in conversation, insisting on "talking turkey," which included a good dose of humor. Bebo was warm, generous and wise. Her authenticity, keen insight and spot-on perceptions had a great impact on others.

Bebo is survived by her children, Crissi (Will), Vicki (Michael) and Mark (Natalie); her beloved grandchildren, Sarah, Wesley, Olivia and James; Bill?s daughters, Emilie and Diantha; and her sister, Bette.

Bebo loved deeply and family meant the world to her. She will forever be in our hearts.